Main customs in Sikh Marriage
Roka and Chunni Ceremony
The process begins with the Roka ceremony, where the families formally agree to the alliance. Following this, the groom’s family presents the bride with a Chunni (a scarf) as a symbol of acceptance and blessing.
Kurmai or Engagement
The formal engagement ceremony involves the exchange of rings between the bride and groom. The families may exchange gifts and sweets as a symbol of their commitment
Akhand Paath
Before the wedding, an Akhand Paath (continuous reading of the Guru Granth Sahib) is conducted to seek blessings for the couple. This may take place at the Gurdwara or the homes of the bride and groom.
Maiyaan (Haldi)
Like in many other cultures, a Haldi ceremony, known as Maiyaan in Sikh weddings, involves applying turmeric paste to the bride and groom’s skin. It is believed to bring a natural glow to the skin.
Sangeet and Mehndi
Sangeet is a festive pre-wedding celebration that involves music, dance, and singing. Mehndi, the application of henna, is also part of the pre-wedding festivities, typically taking place before the Anand Karaj.
Milni
Milni is a meeting between the two families, particularly the respective fathers, grandfathers, uncles, and other male relatives. Gifts and greetings are exchanged during this joyful occasion.
Anand Karaj
The central and most important ceremony is the Anand Karaj, which takes place in the Gurdwara. The bride and groom, along with their families, sit in the presence of the Guru Granth Sahib. The ceremony includes the recitation of hymns, the Laavan, which symbolize the journey of the couple through life together.
Laavan Phere
The Laavan Phere involves the bride and groom walking around the Guru Granth Sahib, symbolizing their spiritual journey together. The recitation of Laavan hymns continues during this circumambulation.
Doli and Rukhsati
The bride leaves her parental home in a Doli (palanquin) after the Anand Karaj, symbolizing her departure. Rukhsati is the formal farewell as she leaves her family to start a new life with her husband.
Sikh weddings are characterized by their simplicity, spirituality, and focus on the principles of equality and community. The rituals and customs emphasize the sacred nature of the union and the importance of seeking blessings from the Guru Granth Sahib.